LOHO Bride // Real Bride : Kat + Rian

Name: Kathleen deVos

Dress Designer: Rue de Seine

Wedding Date & Venue: May 7th, 2016, Sacred Sands Bed & Breakfast in Joshua Tree, CA

How did you and your partner meet?

My husband, Rian, and I met online (OKCupid!) and our engagement was at Burning Man...I joke with him about what a Bay Area cliché we are!

What about your gown spoke to you? What first struck me was the luxuriously soft cotton silk fabrication- I knew it was something I could wear all day that would move with me comfortably. I also fell in love with the vintage inspired lace detailing- the sophisticated and modern yet rustic, etherial vibe was just what I'd imagined. When I put the Eve dress on, I still felt like "me", which was important- casual and feminine. The dress ended up being incredibly well suited to our desert venue, even though I had settled on the dress before we had any idea where the ceremony would be held! It was meant to be. Favorite epic wedding moment? Rian and I chose not to have a wedding party, and also decided to walk down the aisle together. As we came into view and began towards the front of the ceremony space, I think we caught our wedding guests off guard, as they maybe were expecting more of a processional before our entrance. The entire crowd leapt to their feet with a burst of applause and cheers, which stopped us dead in our tracks in the middle of the aisle, hand in hand, laughing and crying and just taking in all of our loved ones. That memory will be frozen in my mind forever.

What about your gown spoke to you?

What first struck me was the luxuriously soft cotton silk fabrication- I knew it was something I could wear all day that would move with me comfortably. I also fell in love with the vintage inspired lace detailing- the sophisticated and modern yet rustic, etherial vibe was just what I'd imagined. When I put the Eve dress on, I still felt like "me", which was important- casual and feminine. The dress ended up being incredibly well suited to our desert venue, even though I had settled on the dress before we had any idea where the ceremony would be held! It was meant to be.

Favorite epic wedding moment?

Rian and I chose not to have a wedding party, and also decided to walk down the aisle together. As we came into view and began towards the front of the ceremony space, I think we caught our wedding guests off guard, as they maybe were expecting more of a processional before our entrance. The entire crowd leapt to their feet with a burst of applause and cheers, which stopped us dead in our tracks in the middle of the aisle, hand in hand, laughing and crying and just taking in all of our loved ones. That memory will be frozen in my mind forever.

Any parting wisdom for future LOHO Brides?

In all of the (many, many!) decisions you'll make about your wedding day, try to tether your choices back to how you want to *feel* on your day, and what you want the experience to be like, holistically, for you, your honey, and your guests. And don't be afraid to shake things up- weddings are changing! We took care to consider prescribed wedding traditions and explore which had significance to us, which didn't, and which traditions we wanted to evolve to feel more personalized. For example, we did our "first look" photos the evening before our wedding day, so we could just kick back and have fun with our families on the morning of. We also had a cocktail party in the afternoon before the ceremony, to set a more relaxed vibe and allow guests to settle in. I was also out and about in my dress at that time- I decided that not missing my party was more important than the big ceremony dress reveal! Many guests said that our wedding felt unique, special and perfectly "us", and I think that's because with each decision we made, from the food to the ceremony to the decor, we asked ourselves "why are we doing it this way?".